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Fadilah's avatar

This is a wonderful post and great food for thought! I’m so glad to see this encouragement to view stay-at-home motherhood with care and strategy, especially seeing that we always talk about how much of a ‘real job’ it is!

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

I’m so glad this resonated with you! Yes, exactly. With any job we can balance striving for more when the season allows for it ❤️

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Calee Lee from Xist Publishing's avatar

Each season of parenting is so different! Thank you for acknowledging this and encouraging moms. Any thoughts on raising the bar when it comes to reading to your kids?

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

Thank you for the kind words. It’s so true that each phase is so different. Yes! I have a post called “how to get your toddlers and preschoolers hooked on books”. Let me know if it helps!

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H.R. Morgan's avatar

I really appreciate this post. Thank you! 💛

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

Thank you for being here, Hailey!

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Mollie Donghia's avatar

This is packed with so much wisdom and encouragement. Now that my youngest is nearly 3, we’re in a totally different season (physically and emotionally). Not every season can and should feel the same, so giving yourself grace but also empowerment to do harder things is a good balance to aim for. Thanks for sharing!

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

Thank you, Mollie! So glad this resonated with the season you’re in.

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SAHD's avatar

As a sahd I find it difficult to find that joy at the end of the day not sure if it’s because there aren’t that many sahd I know of but this is what I feel . Thanks for writing this.

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

I think most stay at home parents have seasons where it’s increasingly hard to see that joy at the end of the day. Especially at the end of the day! Often we are exhausted and just waiting for them to be asleep.

My biggest advice for this would be to find areas of your role that you can do differently, that may help bring more joy in.

For me, I really don’t like doing “kid centric” activities. The zoo, kids classes, kids museums, etc. I felt a lot of pressure to do these things because I saw other parents doing them, but now I say noooo thank you. I love being outside and having less on our calendar, so that’s what we do! We stay home and we go for hikes & the park. I schedule one “enrichment” class a week, and that’s it! Try to prioritize your needs and what you want every so often, too.

Of course having less of a community of stay at home dads would be hard. Even for us moms it’s hard to find people we genuinely enjoy being with. Keep trying. They are out there!

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SAHD's avatar

As a sahd I find it difficult to find that joy at the end of the day not sure if it’s because there aren’t that many sahd I know of but this is what I feel . Thanks for writing this.

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Esther Berry's avatar

wow this so refreshing! It really validates the "wanting more" that comes with having an older baby but in a gentle way. (my little one just turned one <3)

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

Thank you so much I’m glad it resonated with you! ❤️

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Kat's avatar

As a mom in her 4th mo post partum I have such a deep appreciation for the way you shared this post and I’m looking forward to being able to raise the bar in the future as a sahm. Thank you! 💗

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Cadence Roosevelt's avatar

You are still absolutely in the thick of it! Give yourself grace and space to stay in the postpartum bubble as long as you need ❤️

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Kat's avatar

Thank you ☺️

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